Fear of success, fear of failure or Both? Part 1

It appears that this is a very trite in personal and organizational development, discussed in many books, courses and consultancies. It will remain so for fear is an inherent human emotion. Fear of failure or fear of success? Many people want answered this question thousands of years. What if your fear of success is not really to succeed, but to something else?, Or what if your fear of success is actually a fear of failure, or rather fear of failure? It may even be a combination of both and then the situation becomes crippling and many people do not even try. Plane is frozen and life becomes a rigid way, without excitement, or joy, it becomes a mechanical process.

Success is the aggregation of those you experience when you achieve what you intend.

As we said before in the West's success is perceived as the constant achievement, recognition and prestige. So far it has not been spoken of emotion. That's when life becomes a constant process to reach, achieve and accomplish something to see if we can fill us thinking: "When you achieve" x "thing then I will be successful." At the end when specific achievement that would have to ask that we see as a successful person how you feel, if you really enjoy your accomplishments, and experience joy and satisfaction with them, or is an achievement to his collection.

This subtle but important difference is what separates the achievers and those actually achieved successful living life fully. And truth be told, if we believe that success is coupled with the emotion, then we will understand why our culture is privileged and avoids achieving the thrill of achievement.

Fear of success or fear of failure may be multifactorial, ie a host of reasons, not just one. It is therefore of vital importance personally explore the history, beliefs, agreements and loyalties that are behind that fear of success. I remember one person who attended the meeting lived in constant tension, as a part of him wanted to achieve goal of being named area manager in the company that worked. Met the profile for that position, he developed the skills to run the job, but something held back to make it and therefore sabotaging. Recall that the self-sabotage always serves a greater need. In this case to explore in detail what might be causing this fear of success came to find out. He was the eldest of 5 children and given the family situation in which the father died when he was 9. He recalled that one day his mother told him: "Now you're the strong man of the house, you have to help your brothers"

A simple phrase that marked his life, because the expectation was imposed on him was very high, and as failing just like mom, started to live in constant tension with a fear of failing in their assignment. At the same time a fear to meet the expectation, because as I said, "I felt that if met would be the fun boy who wanted to become the strong man of the house" And then that started this dichotomy in his life. No could afford to fail in caring for their siblings and be the man of the house because you feel guilt, and yet afraid to abide by this expectation because deep down would not himself fail to stop being a child to become a man happy strong early, so the fear of success (achieving) and also the fear of failure (fail) were present every time he had to make a decision, it would freeze and would rather stay where he was rooted in the fear that if he over did it or not, in any way felt a wrenching fear. Read the 2nd part of the article here