Woman Pursues Commitment, As men sex

Until now the general perception is that men are responsible for most problems in relationships. We see it as a theme in books, movies, theater and TV series, not to say that women are not willing to take responsibility. We often hear the woman blamed for giving too much love or love too much (there's even a book with this title: "Women Who Love Too Much").

The funny thing is that women tend to give too much love or love too much when you are involved with a man who shows little interest. Are women still love men because their nature is giving, nurturing and consent? Or rather, the women love challenges? If you're male and you're reading this means that it is the latter and if you're a woman, you know it the second.

Women's commitment to pursue the same way men have always pursued sex. Too often men lose interest in women once put to bed. Asimiso, women often lose interest once they make the man agrees with them - that's the reality, but certainly not the perception most people on women (including women themselves). Why? Because it does not fit the stereotype that "men are bad and women are good" that we have used both. The world is not ready to assume it is not necessarily so.

Women who say they love too much are the equivalent of men say or do anything just to get a woman to bed. These women will do and endure almost anything to achieve his goal - get a man to commit to them. But ... once you succeed, usually get bored and have a lot of resentment towards him for what they endured as long to achieve your goal. Eventually, after finding a reason to blame the man for his unhappiness, move to their next conquest. This is the game of compromise, female version of her lie down and discarded.

Interestingly, it was discovered that hundreds of women ended their relationship after reading the book "What's wrong with men?" (He's Just Not That Into You) or see the film because they realized that it was impossible to rationalize the behavior of their boyfriends / husbands, and once you read the book or seen the movie, the woman and had nothing left to look at or talk to her friends no longer need to guess what they were thinking about their boyfriends, or had reason to spend hours wondering where their relationship was going. The need to talk and discuss, hoping and wishing he had removed.

How? It turns out that these women, before reading the book, thought that his men were complicated and mysterious, in other words a challenge, and what they discovered is that the conduct of his men is fully identifiable and predictable. Do not lose sight or overlook what happened: male behavior and thus the men were no longer mysterious. As a result many women decided to end their relationship. Not due to the way they were treated, if it did they would have done before the book / movie. Ie ended their relationship for the same reason as always: Their boyfriends are boring, predictable.

Little is said and little is known about the fact that it is women and not the man who tends to finish most of the relationships. And yes, I understand that readers preconditioned or closed-minded thinking that women are not end their relationship but for the misconduct of the man. This is not necessarily true, the distance is one of the most common reasons according to investigations and surveys of women who end up or want to end their relationship: "My husband / boyfriend bores me."

With this in mind, we must ask why the man is always labeled as "bad" and guilty. The answer is simple:

As a society we keep women's bad behavior in secret many women buy more books than men.

It is assumed that these books on the couple and the man's behavior or differences between men and women as "Women are from Venus and Men are from Mars" are made to empower women. However, I think the opposite happens. We can not become more powerful if we dedicate ourselves to feed our ego compensating for past oppression. Women will be much more powerful when they take responsibility for our dark side and our own behavior and the damage it causes around us. Of course, this type of information is much more difficult to digest for women because it involves taking responsibility and stop being "good." For the same reason books with these data would not be very popular among women.

In our culture, man has been reduced to their animal nature, while women still separates him from his own. The devil and the angel, to put it in some way, living within every man and women are not in any way excluded from this fact of human nature.

At some point in history, many societies assigned acceptable behaviors and characteristics for each of the sexes. And to this day we are inundated with media exaggerated and fictitious images regarding male and female behavior. The woman as man has been sliced ​​in half, only allowed to own part of who he is.

If women really can achieve equality with men and stop being their own oppressors, we must recognize and assume responsibility for the disrespectful manner in which often treat men. The reality is that women are the victims as often as we are the villains. Recognize and admit this fact is the only way in which women will be complete.

This process requires us to ask things like:

A few men have rejected? How many times have I returned the call to a man? Many times have I lied to a man? How many times have I been unfaithful? Many times I have given wings to someone knowing it will not happen at all? I have used many times a man for his money? I've used many times a man to give me attention? I've used many times a man just for sex?

The reality is that many women do all that and more. And the worst is that they do to men who really want them and treat them well. Unfortunately, good men are seen as willing - willing to compromise, is what leguaje male would be a "stick easy" or "acostón safe." Women do not need to read a book with the perspective of a man to understand the effect of male behavior, all we need do is ask why some men treat the same way that we complain when we are so treated us . And of course the answer is: Because that man does not interest me much.

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